Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Christmas Reflections - 2013

Traditions are exhausting.

I always forget cards.  I remember Christmas cards to people at distance, but forget cards for my husband (boo!) and my boys.

The older the kids get, the harder it is to stay in budget while getting them something they like without giving them gift cards. 

We give our pets gifts and our pets give us gifts.  Last year Mustang gave me a rain jacket; this year he gave Russ a Husky collar and leash for their dog walks (Mustang will be wearing the collar and leash just to be clear…)

Extended family Christmases should probably be scheduled MONTHS in advance instead of days before. 

Blake doesn’t think Christmas at Disneyland sounds like fun.  I disagree.  Can’t AFFORD it, but I disagree.

Reasons to buy cheap wrapping paper?  When it gets crumpled and torn, you don’t care about folding it up and re-using it for future years.  Reasons not to?  It doesn’t wrap as nicely and cuts in jags.

The good news about e-Christmas letters?  Good for the environment and saves time.  Bad news? Not as much fun mail during December and fewer cards to hang as decorations in the house.

I hope your Christmas/Holiday was happy and not too stressful.

Happy New Year 2014~!



Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Merry Christmas! ~ Holiday Letter 2013 ~

Merry Christmas, December 2013

I’ve debated all year whether to do yet another Christmas letter; time flies so fast and the year is so filled with trips and photos and memories that it’s hard to compress it into one letter that’s interesting.  Yet, every December I want to reach out to my friends and family in one more way and chronicle the passing of another year; so, here it goes…

Blake turned 15 in October and is looking forward to driving and getting a job.  Somehow he’s got to fit that in between football, homework, girlfriend(s), scouts, wrestling and school, so you’re probably safe on the roads for a while longer.  He started 9th grade in September and attended his first Homecoming dance, complete with photos, dinner and all the social knowledge his mother could cram into his brain during transport to and from football practices.  Blake hiked over 100 miles in August at Philmont with a group of other scouts from his troop, attended summer camp and football camp.  He’s also grown five inches and three shoe sizes over the year – he is now taller than both his father and I, and only a few inches shorter than his older brother.

James is working two part-time jobs which keep him busy and flush with cash.  He’s saving to move into his own place and possibly take a couple of classes in the computer or gaming field.   He hasn’t yet decided to drive, so he capably gets to wherever he needs using our local transit system or the mom-taxi if necessary.  He’s done some house- and pet-sitting over the year and has maintained his interest in language and anime. 

Russ oversaw a major project at work this year as Snohomish County P.U.D. built a new data center and moved their entire technology infrastructure from various buildings into one space.  He put in a lot of overtime, weekends and sleepless nights, but the move went fairly smooth.  He got to be the ‘casualty’ during Disaster Recovery exercises, so he was left here in Washington while his co-workers traveled to pretend to save the world (okay, just Snohomish County) from a remote location.  Russ also became Troop 550’s Scoutmaster this summer; following in the steps of his father who began the troop almost 50 years ago.  In his spare time he’s almost completed the master bedroom and media room remodel and put up with my attempts to take down the fence (I succeeded), build a new fence (lumber in the drive-way – waiting until spring now), and the purchase of a commercial freezer that doesn’t work (yet).

We still have two cats (Princess and Callie), one bearded dragon (Jette) and our beloved boxer, Mustang.  Mustang decided to test the theory of ‘Boxer vs. Honda’ and came out a winner, but our cash flow suffered a major dent (pun intentional).  We are thankful that he only suffered some cuts and bruises, a bruised lung and had to put up with several x-rays, blood draws and vet visits.  It could have been much worse and we are grateful that he came through the accident with little difficulty. 

The older ‘kids’ are doing much the same; we are blessed with our three grandkids – Jaine, age 9; Hayden, 4 on Christmas Eve; and Bryson, 18 months.  I have the gift of watching all three of them every day while moms and dads go off to their jobs.  My kids have stable jobs, happy households, a great church and a steadfast relationship with God. 

Paige spends her time writing blogs, taking photos, playing on Facebook and filling up the calendar with events and appointments.  My personal chef business is steady; I’ve held a few classes this year and catered two events.  I have five children I nanny during the day and spend the rest of the time either cooking or looking for recipes.  I occasionally sleep.

From our family to yours; we wish you a Merry Christmas and a year of health and happiness. 

And without controversy great is the mystery of Godliness: God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory” (1Timothy 3:16)”
Russ, Paige, James & Blake Norman

**Effective early 2014 (TBA), we will no longer have our home phone.  You can reach us via cell, email or snail-mail; we’re also on Facebook, blog (http://paigesprattle.blogspot.com/) and my business website (www.yourpersonalchefpaige.com)!

paigenor@outlook.com (NEW!!)                             on Facebook:      Paige Roper Norman
russell.norman@frontier.com                                on Facebook:      Russ Norman     

Friday, December 13, 2013

What do I have against wrestling?



This is my 2nd year as a wrestling mom. Last year was ‘just’ middle school; against other schools but considered “intramural” and not competitive at a regional or state level.  We asked for a scholarship, he got all the equipment and uniform from the team and he had a good time.  It was a learning experience.

This year is his first year in High School and he signed up for wrestling as well as football.  He had one week in between the end of football ‘season’ and the beginning of wrestling practice.  Practices are every school day for three hours, excluding match days.  Matches are Tuesday and Thursday evenings and all-day tournaments are held almost every Saturday during December and January. 

In the coach’s favor, he sent home a packet of forms and information about a week before practices began.  The packet also had a calendar with EVERY practice, match and tournament listed on it, including regionals and state competitions.  I LOVED this!  So much easier to make decisions on schedule conflicts when I have advance notice instead of two days prior to the event.  We were granted a scholarship and all the equipment and uniform items are again provided.

I’ve signed up to donate food for the concession, run the concession for a night and help with the hospitality room during the home tournament.  I’m not going to the away matches or tournaments, but the home matches and tournament I’ll at least stay for the JV portion to see my son.

So far, there have been two matches, both on Thursday nights.  JV starts at 6:30; Varsity at 7:30.  I’m off work at 5-ish and go right after I’m done for seven very important reasons…If I arrive after 6 PM; I’m charged $7 PER MATCH to attend.  If I attended every match and tournament over the season (not counting regional and state) I would be paying an additional $126 for admission alone.  That doesn’t factor in time or gas or the hours spent in an all day match where my son wrestles for approximately 30 minutes over the entire day.

But that’s not the real reason I’m not fond of wrestling.  It’s about the weight.  My 15 year old son has grown roughly 3 inches in about 4 months and has a body-fat percentage of about 7%.  That’s the minimum percentage he can have (in other words he can’t go below a specific weight during the season or he has to sit out).  Here’s the problem:  He weighs a little over 145 pounds; the next weight class is 152.  Sure, that’s only 7 pounds, but that (apparently) is a lot of difference when wrestling.   If son weighs anything (decimal points included) OVER 145, he’s wrestling boys in the 152 weight class which includes boys that weigh 146 to 159 pounds. 

He weighs himself AT LEAST twice a day.  If he weighs even close to over 145 he doesn’t eat for the day of the match.  EVEN though coach has told him that’s not the way to make weight; even though it’s unhealthy; even though he’s a growing boy and he could lift weights to burn the weight and build muscle (which is heavier than fat).

Here’s a conversation from our house last night, before the match: 

Son:  “Mom, I weigh 145.2; should I eat something or wait until after the match?”

Mom:  “I think you should decide on your own, but you didn’t eat lunch and you had very little for breakfast.  Your body needs fuel to grow as well as compete.”

There’s a mom on the team who makes sandwiches and provides snacks and fruits for the wrestlers.  After they’ve weighed in, they can eat to their hearts content.  I love that this mom does this and I’m not complaining about the food.  But the logic is counter-productive to me, because if they’ve weighed in at 145, but they eat afterwards, won’t they actually be wrestling at OVER 145?  Why not just eat a good meal before and wrestle at the higher level?

Coach’s rule is “no sodas, no McDonalds, no pizza” during the season.  Great strategy, but the number of times we actually eat any of those things is possibly twice a month.  We cook at home mostly and eat pretty healthy.  I make homemade pizza crusts and we have lots of vegetables and fruit on hand for snacks and sides.  The wrestling eating strategy also counts out Chinese food, rice, potatoes, and at the weight he wants to wrestle at, almost anything except a carrot stick and water.  In a given school day he’s eaten an Eggo French toast (4 sticks), a pizza stick at lunch with water and an apple at home before the match.

Another conversation regarding dinner the night before prior to an all day tournament; we usually have pizza one night, two times a month. 

Mom:  “What should we do for dinner Friday night?  Should I make pizza?”

Son:  “I can only have one piece of pizza or I’ll just have a salad.  And then I’ll run afterwards.”

To say that I’m concerned is an understatement.  Let’s review; he weighs himself at least twice a day, eats maybe 1000 calories and stresses over every ounce. It’s like living with a super model without the paycheck and the paparazzi.

I’m not against the actual wrestling, although the team last night was extremely aggressive and I felt the referee didn’t call the choking calls he should have. 

I’m not worried about him getting hurt (he’s played football after all).  I think the workouts and training are beneficial and he’s exhausted every day.

I’m not even bothered too much about the fact that girls wrestle against the boys (although I maintain that there are some sports that women should never participate in and especially when they’re matched against men).

But I’ll just say that I don’t think it’s a wise choice to have a sport where people in the growing phase of their life are worried about gaining weight in a manic and unhealthy way. 





Thursday, December 12, 2013

A Mom’s Christmas List

'Tis the season for lists of wants...





Chores that are done without being asked.

No laundry to fold or wash or dry (or iron or hang up or put away).

Dinner planned, shopped, prepped and cooked.  Dishes done too.

More hours in the day or less things that MUST be done.

A calendar that lists when children will need new shoes and clothing for budgeting purposes.

Children whose eyes DID NOT roll back in their heads.

Floors that kept themselves clean and shiny or vacuumed. 

Pets that walked, fed and watered themselves.

Beds that made themselves.

A mysterious benefactor that would finish all the remodeling projects (and pay for them too!)

A meal eaten hot, a cup of coffee not warmed up.


What is on your Christmas list?

Monday, December 9, 2013

LWSD 2014 Levy and Bond Issues (Pt. 2)



For Part 1 see here

I asked several questions regarding the upcoming measures: school sizes, planning and funding of projects. (emphasis mine)


Q:  Are there plans drawn for Juanita or other schools in the modernization process?

A:  At this stage, we look at things like how a building of a certain number of square feet might fit onto a specific site and other general planning that helps develop cost estimates. Cost estimates and budgets can be developed without final plans.  If the bond measures passes, then we would begin the normal process of forming a school building committee that includes parents and staff and selecting an architect. Final building plans are developed after a process that gets input from the school community.
                 
Q:  What is the current student population at the Juanita High School Building vs. Capacity? (please separate Juanita, Futures and Cambridge Programs)

A:  Student population in the Juanita High School building now consists of 64 students in Futures School, 1354 students in Juanita, of which about 128 are in the Cambridge program.

The building’s current capacity is 1290, with 179 of those spaces in portable classrooms.   Note: about half the Cambridge program students live in the area that feeds Juanita High School and most of the rest live in the Lake Washington High School area.

Q:  What is the proposed student population vs. capacity at Juanita?

A:  We expect the Juanita High School population to grow to about 1,440 in 21-22. Capacity of the modernized school is 1400 but the Westside STEM School, which will serve 600 students, will also be built on the same campus and we expect some Juanita students to attend that school.



Q:  What is the current student population at Rockwell Elementary vs. building capacity?

A:  Current student population in Rockwell Elementary is 661. Total capacity (including 115 spaces in portables) is 575.

                 
Q:  What is the proposed student population vs. capacity at Rockwell Elementary?

A:  That’s not such an easy question to answer. Remember that we are adding an elementary school north of 116th street in Redmond if the bond passes. A new set of boundaries will have to be drawn in this area, which would change the area that Rockwell Elementary serves, and we don’t know exactly where those boundaries will be drawn.

       In addition, we will be adding an elementary school to serve Redmond Ridge East. So much of Redmond will be involved in boundary changes. Thus, we have to look at elementary student population versus capacity on a regional basis, rather than a school by school basis, ensuring there is enough capacity between all the schools to serve the populations of the entire entire region. Boundaries will then be drawn to ensure an appropriate distribution of students among the schools.


Q:  What is the current student population vs. capacity for Lake Washington High school?

A:  Lake Washington had 1,442 students in the October count. The current capacity is 1,485, with no portables in use.


Q:  What is the proposed student population vs. capacity availability for Lake Washington High school?

 A:  The District projects a population of 2,073 students by 21-22. However, some of those students are expected to take advantage of the new Westside STEM school . The addition will add space for 500 students.

Q:  Why do we need to build more space when the Lake Washington High School building was just “remodeled” in 2011?

A:  Initial planning for the scope of the new Lake Washington High School building began in 2005 for the 2006 bond measure. At the time, the district still had three-year high schools, one full grade less than it houses now. Work on determining the feasibility of four-year high schools did not begin until 2009, the same year the district broke ground for the new building. So at the time the school was planned, there was no immediate need for additional space. And it does take two to three years to build a new high school.

However, the district did foresee the possibility that growing enrollments and/or a change in grade configuration could create a need for more space at LWHS at some time in the future. As a result, when the school was designed, a second phase addition was planned for the future, when needed. Since the school now both houses an additional grade and is seeing growing enrollment, that need is here. Also building space earlier than needed impacts cost of maintenance and operations.


1        Information provided by Kathryn M. Reith, APR                  Communications Director, LWSD
3          Information from LWSD.org website http://www.lwsd.org/News/2014-Levy-and-Bond/Pages/Frequently-Asked-Questions.aspx

Information provided by Kathryn M. Reith, APR         Communications Director, LWSD
Emphasis mine

LWSD website information regarding the Levy & Bond Issue:  http://www.lwsd.org/News/2014-Levy-and-Bond/Pages/default.aspx


Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Lake Washington School District 2014 Levy and Bond Issues (Part 1)

This post addresses the upcoming Bond and Levy measures for Lake Washington School District for February, 2014.




What is a Levy?                     A “Levy” is a pay-as-you-go-model; a certain amount of money is collected each year for a limited number of years. 1

What is a Bond?  A “Bond” resembles a mortgage; a bond is sold with a promise to pay back the money to the bond buyer with interest.  The payments are made with the portion of the property tax devoted to bond measures.  Bonds are up to 20-years in maturity dates.  Bonds are sold as needed to build schools; so not all bonds are sold at once. 1


Debt Numbers  The debt number includes past bonds and levies that have not yet paid off.  The total INCREASE if all three measures are approved would be $0.81 (81 cents) per thousand dollars of assessed value in 2014; with slight changes for 2015-2018 depending on tax assessments and bonds that pay off. 1



The three measures below will appear on the ballot for the February 11, 2014 election:

Levy #1:                  Educational Programs & Operations Levy    The EP&O levy funding makes up about 23 percent of the district’s general fund revenues. It provides funding for basic items such as textbooks, insurance, utilities and maintenance; teacher planning, preparation and training; and athletics and activities. 2

Proposed cost:  $1.85 per thousand dollars of assessed value on each home in annual property taxes. Currently the cost is $1.78 per thousand dollars of assessed value.  (Increase of $0.07)

Among the items it helps pay for are:

·       Additional staff beyond those funded by the state
·       Teacher planning & preparation time
·       Instructional materials and textbooks
·       Safety & security, transportation, facility maintenance    
·       Programs to meet student instructional needs, such as Special Education, English Language         Learners, and safety net
·       Extracurricular activities & athletics3


Levy #2:                  Capital Projects Levy          Replaces an expiring levy to fund both facility and technology projects.

Proposed Cost:  $0.91 cents per thousand dollars of assessed value.  Currently the cost is $0.70 per thousand dollars of assessed value.  (Increase of $0.21)

This measure would raise ($127,200,000):
$21.2 million for building systems replacement & improvements, such as new roofs
$4.8 million for site improvements, including athletic field and playground upgrades
$9.3 million for school and program building improvements
$6.3 million to for code, compliance, health and safety projects
$20.7 million for technology infrastructure and support
$28.5 million for technology equipment, including replacement of student computers on a four-year lifecycle
$9.3 million for instructional software & support systems
$8.8 million for business system & technology operations software and support
$18.3 million for technology training and professional development2
Bond Measure                        $755 million to build new schools needed to accommodate growth and to modernize existing schools. The new schools are needed based on the district’s projections of enrollment growth of 4,200 students over the next four years. 2

Proposed Cost:                      $1.97       per thousand dollars of assessed value.  Currently the cost is $1.44 per thousand dollars of assessed value.  (Increase of $0.53)

Here is a chart of the estimated cost for the four years covered by the two levies – 2015-2018. Remember that the exact amount per thousand may vary as future assessed values change.

EP&O
CPF Levy
Debt/6-yr levy
Total
Current - 2014
1.78
0.70
1.44
3.92
2015
1.85
0.91
1.97
4.73
2016
1.88
0.91
1.97
4.76
2017
1.90
0.91
1.97
4.78
2018
1.92
0.91
1.97
4.80

The debt number includes past bonds that were sold as authorized by previous bond measures and the six-year capital projects levy passed in 2011. As old bonds mature and are paid off and as the six-year levy is paid off, that number may vary; also depending on when in the next eight years we sell bonds. Our business office plans these sales to ensure that the debt cost each year stays the same as much as possible.1

Over the next eight years, the bond will enable the district to build new schools and space for students:
Three new elementary schools
One middle school
Additions for Lake Washington and Eastlake High Schools
A STEM-focused high school on the west side of the district and 
An international-focused high school on the east side of the district.
The funds for modernization would replace three schools in Kirkland (Juanita High School, Kamiakin Middle School, and Kirk Elementary School), two in Redmond (Evergreen Middle School and Rockwell Elementary School) and Mead Elementary School in Sammamish. 2

              
The overall tax rate with the replacement levies and the new bond measure would be $4.73 per $1000 of assessed value.  The increase for the average valued home in Lake Washington School District would be $365 per year, or $30 per month.  Lake Washington School District uses an average home assessed value of $450,000.   Again, the total INCREASE if all three measures were to pass would be $0.81/thousand for 2014. 

*I calculated my tax increase based on assessment values stated on my current Official Property Value Notice, dated September 15, 2013 of $357,000. (Assessment valuation is not the same as appraised value of a home.)  My annual King County Taxes are $3683.75 for tax year 2013.  If all three measures were approved, my taxes would increase approximately $289 for 2015 through 2018 tax years.*

1       Information provided by Kathryn M. Reith, APR               Communications Director, LWSD

Paige A. Norman
Redmond resident

paigenor@outlook.com


Friday, November 8, 2013

Viva la Choices!

Apparently, there is something wrong with me. You see, I don’t like to have people make decisions for me that I can make all by myself.  I actually believe that I am responsible for the choices that I make and I’m willing to take the consequences (or rewards) for those choices.

Case in point:  Kraft makes this ‘poisonous’ decadence called “Macaroni & Cheese”.  It’s a blue cardboard box with elbow macaroni, powdered milk, powdered cheese and a list of preservatives and unnatural colors that make it look yummy on the plate.  It’s carb-loaded, sodium-laced heaven in a pulp enclosure.  I am able to eat an entire box of this luscious delicacy all by myself.  I have been known to make a box for lunch and increase the chances of death to my loved ones by adding hot dogs to the dish and feeding it to my children.  Horrors.

I have several recipes in my arsenal of homemade, hand-crafted, from-the-ground-up macaroni & cheese dishes.  They are delicious and healthy (ish) and worthy of serving to my family.  But they are not the box of carb-fake-cheese-dried-milk-heaven that Kraft provides for just a small convenience fee. 

I realize that the box macaroni & cheese is not healthy.  I comprehend it’s filled with preservatives and additives and unhealthy things that would kill me if I ate it every meal, every day for all of my life.  I’d probably turn orange and weigh over 300 pounds, but I’d likely die happy. 

Here’s what’s wrong with me.  I grasp all those concepts and I choose not to eat it every meal, every day.  I choose to make it a treat; a special fast meal that is tasty and quick and looks nice in the bowls.  It’s called ‘comfort food’ for a reason.

Second case in point:  The FDA is going to ban all trans-fat from our diets.  Apparently we’re not allowed to make decisions on our own health because trans-fats are a danger.  A poison.  A health risk. 

Funny, I don’t see the government banning alcohol or smoking.  According to the World Health Organization the “harmful use of alcohol results in 2.5 million deaths per year”.  The CDC states that “Cigarette smoking is responsible for about one in five deaths annually” 

According to the site “World Life Expectancy” the top 15 causes of death are:





Also please note that the government wants to ban ownership of firearms, but other than “suicide” and “homicide” firearms aren’t even major factors of death.  Possibly “accidents” could fall under that category.

If the government is trying to protect us from all things unhealthy, then why not ban cars?  The “esteemed” Mayor Bloomberg attempted to ban, or at least curtail the consumption of sugary drinks like sodas and juices.  Apparently it’s not the vodka that kills you in a screwdriver, but the orange juice.  And heaven forbid that I treat myself to a gallon of cherry-Coke while consuming fat-drowned kernels of popped corn after I’ve thrown out a Jackson for a movie (which used to be two hours with cartoons and now is more like 45 minutes plus three hours of trailers).

I choose to eat these poisons at the risk of my own health but I eat it in moderation.  I take responsibility for my dangerous actions and live my life on the edge of sanity as I drive through that fast through lane and actually order French fries and chicken-parts coated with breading.  And, yes, I have been known to ‘super-size’ the whole thing.


We, the people have allowed ourselves to be enslaved to the political correctness and hyper-phobia of others who are “only interested in the well-being of all” while they steal our freedoms and turn us into mind-numbed sheep who only eat what we’re told, read what we’re allowed and watch what is deemed necessary.  Meanwhile I’m supposed to work and hand over most of my money to people who don’t work so that they can have phones and food and medical care, while eating the very food that I’m not allowed to eat with the money they’ve gotten from me.

Give my processed cheese pasta or give me death.  Because it should be MY CHOICE.

Monday, October 7, 2013

It's no wonder

It’s no wonder I never finish anything.

My youngest went on a 100+ mile hike this summer and took a few photos; many others on the trek took photos as well.  I asked for copies of the photos and a couple of the leaders put them on the Boy Scout troop website.

I wanted to download the photos I wanted either to my computer or to my shutterfly account so I could make a digital album.  If I don’t get it done now; I’ll never get it done.  So, I wanted to view the photos to decide which ones I wanted to download.  On the website, I open up the first photo and select “full size”.  Move to the next photo and it moves back down to a thumbprint size.  At this rate to view 100 photos, it will take me about an hour.  I decide to select all the photos, copy them to my computer and view them in my photo editor, then dump the ones I don’t want.

I select all the photos and look for a way to download them all.  There is no way.  I right click; I try to drag them, and all the tricks I know.  No way. 

Now I email the webmaster to ask if there’s a way I’m missing to download the photos.  He’s a busy guy and it takes him two days to get to figuring it out.  He can’t find a way to do it, so he creates a “Dropbox” folder for me, sends me an invitation and then sends me an email explaining what he’s done.

So, now I have to download a new application in order to download the photos to my computer in order to download the photos to a digital book program online.  By this time I’ve spent about two hours and I still don’t have photos selected or into a digital book. They ARE downloaded onto my computer.

Is it too much to ask for things to work together, smoothly and quickly?  Am I the only one who stops a project because I need to ask for help (which takes time), download yet another program (add time for the learning curve) and then possibly get to the project?

All this while attempting to maintain my normal life.  It’s no wonder I never finish anything…


And I haven’t even been able to tackle the phone/calendar/laptop/Microsoft issues that are constantly changing and shifting and messing up my life…

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

BSA Leadership

 “It's not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” 
― Roy Disney




“On my honor, I will do my best 
To do my duty to God and my country and to obey the Scout Law; 
To help other people at all times; 
To keep myself physically strong, mentally awake and morally straight.”

Sitting in an Eagle Board of Review a few weeks ago I considered what the scout in front of me was swearing to. I considered this boy, almost a man, and the promise he made.  As I’d known him in his Cub Scout days as well, I had a pretty good handle on the type of young man he was.  I reflected on the Oath he was making and it struck me that I would no longer be able to be certain that future scouts would be able to demonstrate in honesty what the oath required.

“I will do my duty to God…”  Please notice this is not an all-inclusive “little ‘g’ god.  This is a term of reverence used to specify the Christian God.  Not Buddha, or Allah or Krishna or other gods.  Although Boy Scouts is not specifically a Christian organization, in this instance the oath represents a Christian God.

That same Christian God specifically calls us to stand for what is right, follow His judgments and obey His laws.  One of the laws that He instructs us to follow is to keep our bodies sexually pure.  And, in specific, He warns against sex between same-sex persons and encourages either remaining abstinent or marriage between a man and woman. (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Romans 1:26-27).

To keep myself…morally straight.”

BSA has made a financial decision to change their “timeless” values to reflect the current belief that sexual choices are a personal decision.  However, in a youth organization that presumes to protect those young people; whether physically or emotionally; allowing anyone with destructive sexual choices into an organization can only lead to injury and damage to the same youth it promises to protect. 

I have served the organization in many facets for many years and completely supported the program and the opportunities it provided for scouts of all beliefs and backgrounds.  The belief that the value of sexual morality is of no consequence to our young men and women as they become adults is a dangerous and harmful ‘compromise’ that neither reflects timeless values or strong moral code.

It is because of that decision that will impact the lives, morals, values and futures of many youth in the organization for years to come; I have decided to terminate my membership in all areas of BSA.  This was in some ways a difficult decision as I still believe in many of the principles of the scouting program.  The decision further saddens me as I’ve already discovered that in standing for my values, I have been labeled as hateful and phobic; a misunderstanding that unfortunately reflects the consequences of standing for what one believes, instead of following the crowd and the social wind.


I wish the scouting program and all involved the best as they struggle to remain protective and active in a society that is destructive and unproductive.

Thursday, September 19, 2013

Curriculum Night

WARNING…this will be a rant.  Make popcorn or don’t, but I’m not going to be Suzy Sunshine and talk about unicorns and puppies and rainbows.


First of all, this isn’t my first rodeo.  This is my (by my possibly faulty calculations due to memory and denial) 9th High School Curriculum night as a parent.  I have three more to go before I’m done with high school; I am too tired to count how many elementary and middle school nights I’ve attended.

2nd, I hated High School.  It still gives me a cold dread in the pit of my stomach.  Yes, I’ve been out of High school for a few years now, but I still hate it.  I hate the crowded hallways, the lockers, the endless shuffling from class to class (across the campus mind you – several times).  And I hate, hate HATE the popularity play that seems to never end (the “it” crowd stays together as they age, it seems).

Thirdly, we live in Redmond; home of MICROSOFT and several other technological powerhouses.  Technology is a tool; unless it doesn’t work and then it’s a doorstop.  A HUGELY EXPENSIVE doorstop that wastes time and causes frustration…a doorstop that I’ve apparently paid quite a bit of my taxpayers dollars for.

Our school has three forms of communication with parents (not counting mail, phone and website):  Email, Standard Score/Webgrader and Haiku. 

Standard Score is how parents look at the grades in the classes and see what work/projects/tests have or have not been completed.  Standard score is only useful if it’s USED.  Not updating it regularly is of no help to the student or the parent.  Incomplete or outdated information is not useful either.  Not using the notification system of late or missing work defeats the purpose of the system.

Haiku is supposed to be the “portal” (another failed technological tool, but never mind) to the teacher’s classroom.  This is supposed to contain a calendar of what the teacher is covering in class along with notes or worksheets for students to access in case the dog ate their homework or they were out with meningitis or broke up with their love interest and couldn’t handle going to school.  In an enlightened age it might also contain a link to the class textbook, other references or information about the subject for further study.

This is my 2nd year with Haiku.  Or perhaps I should say without Haiku.  Last year parents had no access except through their student’s log-in.  We are three weeks into the school year and parents still have no access to it without student information.  Yes, I have my student’s password but I’m “supposed” to have my own.  And for those of you that say “my son/daughter won’t give me their password” I say; who pays the bills in your house?    

This leaves me with email as the only consistent form of communication.  As unpleasant as it is for me to write to the teachers every week asking for updates on my student; imagine if all 1900+ parents emailed all the teachers asking the same thing.  I think that’s what centralized communication systems are meant to be used for.  At least that’s the theory because I’ve yet to see one of them work in almost 8 years of being used. 
 
A few notes I took during curriculum night, September 2013: 


  • Curriculum night should be focused on learning about the class and the curriculum.  Shocking, I know.  It is NOT a night to tell me about your favorite sports team, all the countries you lived in or that you like French fries.  That’s all fascinating and I know it helps you connect with the parents, but I just want to know what my student will be expected to learn in your class.
  • 10 minutes per class is not enough time.  It’s not enough time especially if you’re going to tell me about your background, interests and favorites things.  Tell me about your PhD and your extensive traveling experiences and your summer work in Mozambique on your Haiku page (portal) or on a hand-out that I can read at home.
  • Curriculum night should not be about politics or money or introducing new programs or procedures to the parents.  It’s about curriculum.  Don’t give me a 10 minute slide show on Lake Washington Schools Foundation or the upcoming Levy proposal or Common Core standards or the Senior Portfolio guidelines.  And don’t expect a teacher that has no information about any of those things to actually be able to answer questions (and there will be MANY) about the topics.  I don’t want politics or fund-raising at curriculum night. 

In every High School curriculum night I’ve been to, I’m supposed to mimic my student’s schedule and move seamlessly from class to class.  Why is it EVERY night I’ve been to the classes are from one end of the campus to the other and rarely logically laid out?  For instance my son has six classes.  First period is in the new building, 2nd floor.  Next class is in the band room – not too far away and I have the luxury of knowing where the band room is from previous experience with my older son.  3rd period is on the second floor on the OPPOSITE end of the campus.  I have about 5 minutes to walk through the hallways, up the stairs, locate the correct hallway and enter the classroom.  Imagine those same hallways during school hours with 1900-plus students doing the same exact thing (don’t forget to imagine the overstuffed backpacks).  Now I have 4th period, which is back at the other end of the campus in the new building, first floor.  5th period and I’m back across the campus, upstairs on the other side of the wing.  6th period I’m downstairs from the 5th period class, but in a different section of hallways.  It’s no wonder these kids are stressed and crabby and have back problems after carting their backpacks up and down and over and around all day long for 6 hours. Thank goodness he doesn't have French 2 this year or he (and I) would have to access one of the four portables on site.

Periods 1 and 5 were the only teachers who finished their presentation before the bell sounded.  There is NO TIME to talk to the teacher because you feel the need to hurry to the next class (not to mention there are already 5 parents in line ahead of you even though the bell just sounded). 

Teacher #1 does not use Webnotes (yes he actually said that).  He does use Haiku and we’re supposed to check Haiku – but we’ll need our student’s pass code and ID to do that – no word on when parents will be given access.  He told us that he’ll "probably" start sending out weekly emails with what’s coming up in class in a week or so.  It’s so hard, you know, to communicate with the parents right now because there have been so many scheduling changes.  (boo.hoo)  He was unclear on how often he'd update Standard Score with assignments.

Teacher #2 finished his presentation (almost) but it’s band and I’ve heard it before.  Only new item was someone needs to help determine the 9th grade uniform for band performances.  Oh, and practice, practice, practice.  Except in my case, we can’t rent a Tuba/Sousaphone from a music store (at least not in my budget) and he doesn’t have any extras for us to take home and use (a benefit the Middle School band had that I’m missing horribly). 

Teacher #3 was home-room.  We had a whopping 25 minutes in this class, but it was all taken up by “Pass the Hat”, slides on the Levy vote in 2014, introducing the Portfolio program (to 9th grade parents) and blowing the horn of Lake Washington Schools Foundation.  We also were handed an emergency form to verify, correct and sign.  This left the teacher about 5 minutes to tell us about her interests and her love of literature.  I understand from my student that she doesn’t use Haiku – not sure if it’s because she won’t or she can’t.  She wasn’t very complete in the small bit of information we were able to get from her; so my overall impression wasn’t much.  I found it interesting that one of the texts the students will be reading are selections from the Old Testament (Bible).  I wonder how long before someone complains about separation of church and state.  She had no information on student passwords for career cruising (the portfolio site) or the portfolio other than what was on her slides.  Thankfully three parents in the class (including myself) had older students and had some knowledge of the program. 

Teacher #4 was the math teacher.  Her message was “No cell-phones, buy a scientific or graphing calculator (for $100) and learn to talk to each other”.  She plans on updating Standard Score by Friday every week.  She didn’t finish her presentation because the Vice Principal came over the intercom and announced that three very special people had parked in places that were so special they were blocking about 50 cars from getting out of the lot.  They were instructed to grab their keys and move their vehicles.  That took 5 minutes of intercom time.  Whoops!  Time to move to period #5.

Teacher #5 is the French teacher.  Overall, I liked her.  She finished her presentation, complimented the students, related to the parents and talked about the planned trip in 2015.  She even had time for us to ask a couple of questions.  I was irritated that she mentioned three times that she had a PhD, but whatever.

Teacher #6 was probably my favorite of the entire evening; although I was late getting there because it wasn’t so easy to just go down one level and across the wing to find the class.  She is a huge ball of energy that was so funny, I’m sure the kids think she’s either on drugs or crazy (my son loves this class, although doesn’t really like history).  She didn’t finish her presentation because she talked too much and all over the board about her life experiences, French fries, chocolate and beer.  Oh, and her husband is an Oregon Duck.  I have no idea how she’s going to teach kids history in the last period of the day after they’ve walked the campus twice; but I know she’ll give it a try.  I did find it interesting that she had signs with several major religions EXCEPT Christianity in her classroom.  I understand it’s a history class, but Christianity is history too.  I suppose it’s balanced out by the Old Testament sections read in English class.

Solutions?  I have a few.  I’m sure the School Board/District/Administration/Union doesn't give a fig about my solutions; but I’ll offer them as I don’t like to complain without a suggestion of how to fix “it”.

Communication:  

Every teacher has to use the tools given.  EVERY TEACHER.  (I don’t care about union regs and how long they work and blah, blah, blah.)  I – or my student – should be able at the end of every school day to access the portal/website for the specific class and know what’s due, when it’s due and any notes, worksheets or presentations to help my student do their homework and study. Every Day.

If my student is late turning something in (or doesn’t turn it in at all) the system that alerts the parents to this MUST be used.  Otherwise I feel that you only want my money and the rest of the parent involvement speech is just bunk. If you want my help in keeping my student on track, focused, organized and doing well in class, then YOU NEED TO PROVIDE ME with the tools (and USE them) to do this.  (Don’t tell me how many students you have.  It’s your job.)

A bit of (ancient) history:  if there was a problem when I was in school, the teacher sent a note home through the student.  If the problem continued, the teacher called the parent.  I don’t remember my mother having to wait for progress reports to come home before she knew what my grades were in a class or if I was struggling or not.  And, although I always turned my homework in on time (it never occurred to me not to???); I’m sure that a call would have been made if my homework was missing or incomplete.

Technology:

If you don’t know how to use the technology, learn it.  I spend hours every week learning how to get onto every new system that I’m required to access.  I manage to do this in between two jobs, the mom-gig and the wife thing.  I’m tired of hearing “He/she is a new teacher and they haven’t learned the system yet.”  Bah. 
We are required to have our students use netbooks.  My tax dollars paid for this.  Put the textbooks on the netbooks and quit expecting our kids to carry the textbooks around (or open them at all).  Have them turn homework, worksheets, math calculations and journals in on the netbooks too.  There are software programs for these things.  I’m not against hand-written assignments, but we live in the 21st century.  “Every child future ready”, right?

Curriculum: 

Every middle school student should have a mandatory class on organization, study skills and using the agenda – every year.  Make it a 7th period or make it a Saturday once-a-month class, but make it mandatory.  If the students don’t know how to organize, use a day-planner/calendar/agenda and study for their classes, they have no way to succeed.  Give them the tools to succeed and the knowledge in how to use them.  If they haven’t learned by 8th grade how to study and organize; they’re going to have a really difficult time in High School with the added stresses and expectations.

Class schedules: 

Based on my personal experience from the past two years, before you change the schedule that the parent and student have requested because of out-dated testing results; why not a) re-test the student to see where the progress and holes are and/or b) CONTACT the parent and talk about solutions and suggestions.  Two years in a row I have had to re-arrange my student’s schedule because of faulty or out-dated testing results.  If you had contacted me the first year, I could have provided you with the testing results I had after four months of tutoring that brought him back up to speed (Why was he behind?  See here)  And why put him in a safety-net ENGLISH class when his MATH skills were clearly the scores of contention?  WHY? 

This year I received (in a very round-about way) information that scores from two class years ago (outdated) put him, yet again, in an English Safety-net class.  If you had consulted the grades from his last semester 8th grade, OR retested him; you would have seen that his English scores were much improved.  And, if you had contacted me (instead of me calling you in a defensive and mama-bear mode) I would have again, gladly provided you with current test results from yet another year of tutoring to keep him up to speed. 

We’re in this together:

Finally, I’d like to ask that the administration and staff stop treating parents as if we are the enemy.  This is MY child we’re talking about; not just another number in the 1900+ student body you have to teach.  I truly want to help you in any way possible by creating a home environment that is favorable to complete homework and assignments.  I want to make sure they do the best they can and follow your class rules.  I want to help them succeed (and yes, I’d like them to graduate). 

I realize we live in a society where every child is a precious snowflake and deserves an award just for being (end sarcasm), but there really are parents who believe that their child is not perfect and doesn’t always deserve the benefit of the doubt.  I’m well aware that my son doesn’t listen to the entire instructions and usually hears only what’s fun and interesting to him.  I’m also aware that not everything he says about you is true or accurate – just as you should understand that not everything he says about his life is factual.  He’s a 14 year old boy with hormones raging through his body that renders his logic center useless and his entire focus is on girls, sports, video games and food; not necessarily in that order.


I have three more curriculum nights left in my mom career.  Is it too much to ask that they actually be about curriculum and nothing else?