Saturday, July 27, 2013

A word is just a word…until it’s not

"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet"

~ Romeo "&"; Juliet; 
William Shakespeare



According to Wikipedia, the word “Nigger” comes from the ” Spanish and Portuguese word negro (black), and from the now-pejorative French nègre (negro). Etymologically, negro, noir, nègre, and nigger ultimately derive from nigrum, the stem of the Latin niger …”

The word “colored” “…is a term that was formerly used in the United States to refer to black people (i.e., persons of sub African ancestry; members of the black race). According to the Webster dictionary, the word colored was first used in the 14th Century.[1]

People (or persons) of coloris a term used primarily in the United States to describe any person who is not white. The term is meant to be inclusive among non-white groups, emphasizing common experiences of racism. People of color was introduced as a preferable replacement to both non-white and minority, …”

Caucasian  is the general physical type of some or all of the populations of Europe, North Africa, the Horn of Africa, Western, Central and South Asia.[2] 

Ethnicity or ethnic group is a socially defined category based on common cultural heritage, shared ancestry, history, homeland, language or dialect, and possibly other aspects such as religion, mythology and ritual, cuisine, dressing style, physical appearance, etc. 

What about the word “Cracker”?  Urban Dictionary defines the word as “Originally the white slave driver because he would "crack" the whip, hence the noun cracker.” Also, “Noun. Slang word used to refer to those of European ancestry. The word is thought to have either derived from the sound of a whip being cracked by slave owners, or because crackers are generally white in color.”  And, “opposite of nigger, an insult to whites... except white people aren't dumb enough to walk around calling each other that word because it's intended to be demeaning.” 

But what about “White Hispanics”?    This makes no sense at all!

So personally, I can be a “Caucasian Cracker”, even though I’ve never whipped anyone and I wasn’t born in Europe.  I’m also considered “White” although my skin tone is more tan than white and my heritage (ethnicity) is from Italy and Ireland. 

I can’t use the word “Gay” because I would be hateful and bigoted, but people who are homosexual can have groups named after them that use the word “Gay” and that’s not hateful or bigoted – it’s just giving them a place to feel safe.   When I was younger, “gay” meant happy.  Kookaburra the bird had a song about how “gay your life must be” and my parents regularly used it to mean joyful or very happy.  Now, “Gay” is a sexual orientation and if someone is “Gay”, they can use the word, but if you’re not “Gay”, then it’s mean and bullying to call someone else “Gay” (even if they are, in fact “Gay”).

Rap artists and people of color can use the word “Nigger” or any variation they want when they sing or talk or joke, because it’s their identity.  But I can’t use the word “Nigger” or any variation because it means I want them to be slaves and that I think less of them (don’t get me wrong – that word isn’t in my vocabulary; nor do I want it to be).

I’m not saying that I agree with using words that have a hateful meaning or that cause pain to groups or individuals, but at what point does any word or EVERY word make someone angry?  Many people who are incorrectly called “African-Americans” are neither African in descent nor are they related to any African country.  Many are Jamaican or Australian or from New Guinea. 

People who are considered “Caucasian” for government forms like the Census, are not from any of the countries that are considered ethnically Caucasian.  I know many people who are American – born in the United States – that may look “Asian” or “Latino” but identify as American.  Not white, not Asian, not “of color”.  Originally census forms asked for the country of birth for the respondent, and each of their parents.  It did not identify the person as “white” or “African” or Irish. 

If we are truly to be a country of diversity and tolerance, we should stop identifying people by groups of race, ethnicity or color.  No more hair or eye or skin color on licenses or applications.  I’m not sure how to identify two women named “Joan Smith”; but forget about age and race and identifying by looks.

Perhaps we should just tattoo everyone with a number and that’s how we ‘classify’ them.  Let’s just jump ahead a few centuries and tie everyone’s identity to a number which can be put into a system and logs everything about that person ever.  I think there's a name for that too...


Friday, July 26, 2013

Beach musings ("Four Days at the Beach")

I don’t know how people make a living here.

Internet coverage is spotty; especially when overcast.  I’m not sure I could make it very long without that outside world connection.

We discovered the “secret” to the Mexican Mocha that’s so delicious here at the beach.  I may be tempted to share it with others; but then again, maybe not. 

Walking the beach has been beautiful.  Tonight we found a perfect shell among all the broken and eaten crabs. 

Pelicans are huge.  I wonder what they eat (I’d look it up but there’s limited Internet).

I’ve stayed in all three rentals at this location and I have to say my favorite is the upstairs unit.  Hearing the sound of the waves from the deck is so peaceful. 

We locked ourselves out of our unit – the lock wouldn’t lock and the latch wouldn’t latch, so we finally gave up taking our key.  And then, it latched and locked and we couldn’t get in.  Good thing the owners are on-site and could get us in with an extra key. 

You know you’re a mom when the only sunscreen left is kids 60 SPF sunscreen lotion (because the older children have taken all the spray-on sports sunscreen).

Best $3 event EVER!  We took a 2+ hour canoe/kayak tour along the waterways around Astoria.  We left from Natul Landing, near Fort Clatsop and paddled around for over two hours with a guided tour.  We learned some more about Lewis & Clark and saw some beautiful scenery.  No wildlife except a cormorant – which Jennifer was impressed I knew the name to.  No sun to speak of, but the weather wasn’t too chilly either.  I need to work on my steering skills, but we had a blast, didn’t have to swim and made it (and burned over 500 calories to boot!)

Yes, we really did buy Chinese food on Thursday night and eat it all three days.  The lady at “Chens” was a bit shocked when we ordered the to-go meal – it was reminiscent of Sandra Bullock in “Two Weeks Notice” ordering Chinese take-out.  We also had scrambled eggs, English muffins, smoothies and a really yummy salad.  Plus popcorn, nuts and don’t forget at least ONE Mexican Mocha every day.

I have great friends who appreciate me and are really smart about lots of things I’m not good at.  That’s what makes the world go around.


We had dinner out at “Lost Roo” our last night.  Our server was a lovely woman named “Nancy”.  She’s a single mother, working a full-time job, home-schooling her three children who doesn’t look a day over 35.  She has a 17 year old, a 12 year old and a 10 year old.  She had a fantastic attitude and outlook on life and I don’t know how she does it.  I want to keep her in my prayers for a very long time.

Movies, movies and books.  I finished a book (I brought 5 with me); purchased another at a used store AND brought my Kindle.  We watched 6 movies; laughed and giggled and ate popcorn.  Oh, and don’t forget the wine. 

I learned that in Texas, one should never go ANYWHERE without lipstick on; that women in Texas wear high-heeled cowboy boots, rhinestone jeans and “Handle Hair”. 

I learned that I tell myself way too much that “I’m not very smart” or “I’m not smart enough” and I have to stop that.  I am smart and I know lots of things; I just don’t always know everything or what other people know.

Sacajawea (or "Sacacawea")

Berry Tree at Lewis and Clark Visitor's Center, Astoria OR

Wondering if this is the same "Christ" family as my son-in-law


 It wasn’t long enough of a get-away, but it will have to do with limited funds and over-booked schedules.

Friday, July 12, 2013

Falling in love with a song



I have this song in my head and I have to admit I’m not really bothered by the earworm.  It brings out my inner Diva and I’m singing it almost every moment I’m awake.  I’ve tried to listen to it so many times that I’m sick of it and it’s just not happening.

I paid the money to download this particular song from iTunes so that I can put it on my Zune and listened to it probably 25 times in about 3 days.  It’s not enough.  I haven’t yet memorized all the words (which means I hum or ‘du, dah, daa’ the words I don’t know) and I’m singing my diva bad self when I’m in the car and mouthing the words with all the motions when I’ve got the earphones on.

I cannot get it out of my head. 

…okay, it’s been about two weeks now and the song is no longer following me everywhere and waking me up with the words.  I’m still loving listening to it and it’s still pinned as a favorite.


Guess I’ll wait for the next obsession to hit me and just go with the flow.  Does anyone else fall in love a bit with the artist that sings the song when they fall in love with a song?  I mean, I have to admit I swoon just a bit when I hear “Summertime” by Kenny Chesney.  It makes me smile every.single.time.  

Some songs remind me of people no matter how long it’s been since I’ve seen them. "Kokomo" by the Beach Boys reminds me of my nephews Ryan and Jeff every time.  We were camping as a family over Thanksgiving one year; every night one family was responsible for cooking and cleaning up.  On the night my nephews' family was responsible, the boys did dishes.  The rest of us are playing games in the living area and in acapella voice we hear the two boys singing the words to the song.  It's those voices I hear every time the Beach Boys sing this song on my Zune or anywhere else.

What song is in your head right now?

What song reminds you of someone or an event or memory?

Thursday, July 11, 2013

G’day Mate!

Today we took a “field trip” up north to Arlington, WA.  It’s a little over an hour from Redmond, so it’s not too far away.  I’ve wanted to take the kids (okay, I’ll confess I wanted to take ME!) to the Outback Kangaroo Farm for a couple of years now.  It’s never worked into the summer schedule between camp, vacation, tutoring, childcare, etc; but this year I decided I was setting a date and going.  

Cue the onset of children getting sick.  Oh well, I guess I get to go by myself – If I’m going to drive all the way up there; I’ll just take a “quick” detour to the outlet malls in Marysville and maybe the Tulalip Casino before I come home.  It’s a good thing the kids got better and came with me or I might not be back yet!

And yes, the weather has been gorgeous ALL WEEK LONG and today I wake up to overcast, cold and drizzle.  Sigh.  Fortunately, the weather broke as we hit Marysville and the sun came out!

You have to be careful you don’t miss the sign off Hwy. 9 – it’s really not very visible.  Not much parking (I recommend you back into the space as there is one entrance and one exit).  Tours are four times a day and they keep them on time.  The tours are about an hour long and you get to pet and feed a variety of animals as well as learn lots about them.  We saw Chickens/Roosters, rabbits, wallabies, kangaroos, llama, alpaca, ostrich, emus, lemurs, tortoises, Peacocks/hens, miniature pony, goats and donkeys.  

Co-Owner Joey gave us the tour around the farm and had plenty of food on hand for the kids and adults to feed the animals.  I asked her how she got started and she said, as a child, people always commented on her name “Just like the baby Kangaroo!”  Fast-forward a few decades and she wanted to adopt an ostrich.  While taking a class on adoption, she sat next to a woman with a baby kangaroo in her lap – the baby was for sale.  She bought a couple of kangaroos and people started hearing about her pets, knocking on her door and asking if they could see them. And, that began her pet/hobby/farm life with kangaroos. 


TIPS:
  • It’s best to call ahead and let them know you’re coming.  They have four tours a day and hold the size to about 20 people.  There are no “reservations” – although you can reserve a private tour at an increased cost.
  • Show up at least 10 minutes before the tour starts to allow for parking and getting settled.  Tours start ON TIME and they don’t let you catch up (*although we were late and they were gracious to allow us to join in).
  • CASH OR CHECKS ONLY.  Don’t be a city girl like me and miss that part of the website.  IF you do, there is a gas station about a mile up the road (away from Arlington proper) that has a cash machine.  There is also a grocery store and other ATM machines about 2 miles before you get to the farm.
  • There is a gift shop, but again cash or check only.  Peacock feathers, stuffed outback animals, postcards and other souvenir type items are available as well as candy bars and sodas.
  •  Bring snacks and a lunch (although don’t bring them to the animals).  There are several picnic tables outside under trees where you can eat before or after your tour.
  • Bring a camera and take lots of photos.  LOTS!
  • The toddlers in my group (2 and 4) didn’t get as much out of it as the older kids, but it was definitely a fun trip. 


I will definitely do this trip again; probably without the time limit we had of rushing back home for son’s football work-outs.  The staff is friendly and the yards are well-maintained – yes, there’s poop and rugged wood and old farm houses and implements, but there were people cleaning up as we toured and we were instructed to make sure to use hand sanitizer (provided in the gift shop) if we touched ANYTHING.

We spent $50 for entrance for an hour tour and another $50 on souvenirs (you could skip that part and just keep the photos).  Two adults and four children under 12.  There is a senior rate too.

Photos (sorry the formatting is wonky)

Tortoise




Albino Wallaby -- very rare
 



Lemurs -- Zaboomafoo or King Julian?


Grandson enjoying the tortoises

Their chest and shoulders are impressive!


 




Emu
Peacock on the roof
Ostriches bite!  9 feet tall and can live to 100 years!
Miniature Pony








Feeding the llama
Petting the alpaca












Sunday, June 30, 2013

A HUGE Bottle of White-out!

I began a post on the subject of DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) vs. allowing same-sex couples to marry in December of 2010.  I edited it a few times, but never posted it; after recent events, I've decided to made a few more edits and post.

This last week, the Supreme Court of the United States made a determination that not allowing same-sex marriages and their participants the same benefits as one-man-one-woman marriages was discriminatory.

I have maintained for a very long time that if our government decides to allow marriage between people solely based on love; while allowing them all the benefits of marriage (but none of the natural benefits of child-bearing); our country is doomed in many ways -- least of all in our population and economy.  This is not just a religious problem but an issue of historic proportion.

It will also open Pandora's box to a host of other related issues, including adoption/foster/child welfare, divorce and may well open the doors to polygamy and child-marriage being considered acceptable and legal.

My original blog post referenced a letter dated January 31, 1997 written by Barry R. Bedrick 
Associate General Counsel to The Honorable Henry J. Hyde, Chairman, Committee on the Judiciary, House of Representatives.  The letter addressed Mr. Hyde's query "in your September 5, 1996, letter, to identify federal laws in which benefits, rights, and privileges are contingent on marital status."

The letter and supporting documentation can be found here.

Mr. Bedrick's cover letter concludes:  The result is a collection of 1049 federal laws classified to the United States Code in which marital status is a factor. “

It continues…

“To give readers a sense of the kinds of federal laws in which marital status is a factor, we classified the laws on the list into the following 13 categories4:

  • Social Security and Related Programs, Housing, and Food Stamps
  • Veterans' Benefits
  • Taxation
  • Federal Civilian and Military Service Benefits
  • Employment Benefits and Related Laws
  • Immigration, Naturalization, and Aliens
  • Indians
  • Trade, Commerce, and Intellectual Property
  • Financial Disclosure and Conflict of Interest
  • Crimes and Family Violence
  • Loans, Guarantees, and Payments in Agriculture
  • Federal Natural Resources and Related Laws
  • Miscellaneous Laws


While we believe this classification scheme is useful for organizing the hundreds of statutes on the list, and for representing the range of federal programs and activities in which the law makes marital status relevant, it should not be regarded as definitive.

4The order of the categories is not significant, except that the first four are those in which marital status is most pervasive, and are the largest.”



Another source I read in my research was located at Great Green Room.

This post discusses the "Legal Consequences of Marriage".  

"Summary: To understand what we are talking about when we talk about extending the rights and responsibilities of civil marriage to gay couples, it is important to understand what those rights and responsibilities are. After some general discussion of what marriage is in a broader sense, this essay provides a summary of the ways in which married couples are treated specially by the law."

The author discusses what marriage is; civilly, fundamentally and religiously.  

"Public recognition of a marriage by the community, the churches and the government can be interlinked. Often a single wedding ceremony can formally establish all three. But they are still fundamentally separate. You can have a civil wedding without a religious wedding, a religious wedding without a civil wedding, and community recognition without either."

The author references the letter I used above and further clarifies a few points:  

"In 1997, when Congress asked the General Accounting Office for a summary of the Federal Laws that treat married people differently from unmarried people, their report turned up 1049 such laws. There are probably more. Even the GAO wasn't eager to do all the work necessary to make a complete list.

But that's just the tip of the iceberg. The fifty states each have their laws that frequently give special rights and responsibilities to married couples. Connecticut's Office of Legislative Research did a similar report on laws in which marital status was a factor, and found 588 such laws. Other states probably have about as many, all different from each other, so on the state level there are probably 30,000 laws relating to marriage. And who knows what laws various municipalities might have.

Besides that, there are also companies that give different treatment to married couples. I'm no lawyer, so I'm not sure how legalization of gay marriages will effect what private companies do, but my guess is that one way or another, most private companies would eventually fall in line with government policy.

So, here's my best list of the more significant legal effects of marriage:
  • Taxes: Taxes are different for married couples. Tax law treats a married couple almost like they were one person. This has advantages and disadvantages
  • Health Care: When a person is seriously ill and not able to make their own decisions, hospitals regularly turn to the person's spouse to make health care decisions, up to and including whether to disconnect a person from life support.
  • Judicial: Married people cannot be required to testify against each other in court.
  • Government Assistance: Married people can get higher payments from some government assistance programs, including Medicaid, supplemental security income, and federal employee and veteran's disability payments.
  • Death Benefits: If your spouse dies, you may be eligible for a wide range of different benefits.
  • Bankruptcy: Married couples can file jointly for bankruptcy which can be beneficial.
  • Immigration and Citizenship: Spouses of legal aliens are automatically legal and are not subject to immigration quotas.
  • Divorce: The legal system often provides mediation services and expedited hearings for married couples who are breaking up.
  • Government Employment: Spouses of veterans can get preferential treatment in hiring for government jobs.
  • Retirement Plans: Changing the benefits in a retirement plan often requires written consent from your spouse.
  • Domestic Violence: There are state and federal laws relating to the special circumstance of domestic violence.
  • Parenthood: If a married woman has a baby, her husband is assumed to be the father.
  • Adoption: In some states, it may be necessary for a couple to be married to be able to adopt children. 
[I've only listed the topic headings; not all of the post.  Please read for yourself for more details.]


Of course, with any relationship, there can always be a break-up.  Divorce is messy enough between one-man-one-woman marriages:  Division of assets, custody and visitation for the children, child support, etc.  Courts have traditionally awarded custody to the mother for many years, birth parents take priority over adoptive or foster parents in many custody cases and then there's the discussion and medical web of surrogate parents and donors.  This entire process will feed the court systems for a great many years while no one truly wins (does anyone win in divorce now?).


So, now that the President of the United States, the government and the Supreme Court have upheld the "right for everyone to marry", they will be required to change 13 categories of the tax code in addition to a host of other legal and religious rulings.  Changing the definition from “one man and one woman” in any way will allow for marriage and civil unions of all modes to be recognized.  If marriage is no longer between one man and one woman, but between consenting persons, then what defines “consent”?  What determines "person"? You cannot define consent by age or race or gender or species; moreover you would need to open consent to any being that did not disagree with the union

Can the government expect to deny the right to marry to anyone who says they're in love?  Is love is any less real and strong between a 14 year old and a 50 year old than between two persons of close age?  Can it be upheld as law that if love between two is acceptable, then love between more must be as well?  Can it still be considered illegal for cousins or relatives to marry?

What about the states that have not yet allowed same-sex marriages?  Will they be forced to uphold the federal standards instead of their state laws?  At what point will the government override the beliefs of many churches and religions that have to this point been able to refuse to marry couples that do not share their beliefs?  The government has already been asked to rule about businesses who choose not to serve clients based on difference of beliefs; in Colorado, Washington and New Mexico, just to name a few.  

Changing the availability of marriage to be a "right" is dangerous ground to tread; and one not easily swallowed by many people.  20 years ago I would have never dreamed that people of the same sex would be allowed to be lawfully married and have the same standing as couples who married to follow their religious and moral beliefs about family, love and children.

If marriage is only about love and benefits and rights, then it demeans the beauty of the vows for every person; regardless of sexual orientation.

Liberty cannot be established without morality, nor morality without faith.
Alexis de Tocqueville 



Let us with caution indulge the supposition that morality can be maintained without religion. Reason and experience both forbid us to expect that national morality can prevail in exclusion of religious principle.
George Washington 





Wednesday, June 26, 2013

As far as I can tell…

Microsoft expects me to keep my existing phone forever and never change to another brand within my lifetime…OR

They expect me to start out every new phone I have with a new email address and life (contacts, apps).

I say this because…

We purchased insurance on the phone we gave to son #2 (I gave him my old phone when I received my new Lumia 900).  Of course, Son #2 damaged the phone and the insurance came in handy.  We made him pay the $50 to replace the phone (gasp – fascist parent warning!) and they shipped the phone to us at home.

I made the decision to take the new phone – HTC 8x Windows phone; and give son the ‘old’ phone – Lumia 900.  So, to transfer my ‘stuff’ to the new phone should be easy-peasy, right?  Well apparently, not-so-much.

I start off by backing up my photos, etc. to my Zune.  That’s what the online guide said to do.  I then removed the SIM card from the Lumia and place it into the HTC.  Follow the instructions to set up the phone and BINGO.  Right?  Not.so.fast.

First I have to install the “Windows Phone App for Desktop” which keeps telling me my phone isn’t plugged in.

When I finally (four tries) get it installed, it won’t let me drag anything from my PC to my phone – only from my phone to my PC.  There’s nothing ON the phone.

THEN, I go to my Windows Live account to re-install my apps and…uh, oh…

Let me back up a bit.  A few weeks ago, Microsoft finished their “migration” of Hotmail to Outlook.  Apparently, I’m special because I was one of the few people who had to create new passwords and user names to access my Microsoft Live account. I now have two – one for my phone and email and one for my online Windows Live Account. 

The two accounts can be “linked” for email purposes, but they do not “link” for any other purpose under the sun that I can tell. There’s no way to switch between the two and copy or sync or upload or download or…oh brother!

So, my phone won’t let me use my frontier.com/Hotmail/Live account.  Which has all my “stuff” on it – but doesn’t recognize my new phone.  I have to use my new Outlook.com sign in to get my phone to continue setting up.  Okay, my phone works; my contacts are there, but no apps.

To FURTHER confuse the issue, my calendar has “disappeared” from my phone.  Oh, it’s there at the start screen, but my calendar is apparently linked with my frontier.com/Hotmail/Live account – which my phone won’t let me use to set up my phone.  I have NOTHING on the Outlook.com sign-in except contacts.

I thought I’d be smart and install my frontier.com email and disable the email sync function (I don’t use that email anymore).  This partially resolved the calendar issue, but not completely.

I tried to fix the problem myself by looking at helps online.  I watched two videos that had lousy sound quality and the screen didn’t match my phone.

I contacted the Microsoft Community help boards online.  The answer was for me to contact Xbox and get it fixed.  I’m not even sure how that can be.  Why would I contact Mattel if my Wii wasn’t working?

In desperation, I emailed my contact at Microsoft – the one who gave me the help with my original post regarding Microsoft / phone products.  He never answered.  Okay, it’s not his job to help me.  Or he’s busy.  Or he’s left the country.  Pick one.

So, in FINAL desperation, I bring a bottle of wine over to my friend Jen’s house.  She says “it’ll take about 15 minutes for me to fix this”.  Two bottles of wine and an hour-and-a-half later…she’s had to ‘crash’ my phone (start from scratch), delete the Lumia from my frontier.com/Hotmail/Live account and I have to come up with a new Outlook.com sign-in password.  Finally, I have my apps.  (There is a lot of the story I’m not writing here because it’s too confusing to put down on paper and I’m not even sure I understand how to explain it to anyone unless they could have looked at it.)

NOW my problem is that my calendars STILL don’t sync; I have no ringtones other than factory MS tones (migraine anyone?) and some of the apps I had on my Windows 7 phone no longer are available for Windows 8.  Like the off-market Starbucks card app that I LOVED.  Starbucks won’t write one for Windows.  I know, first world problems.

So I’ve spent a total of about 5 hours upgrading my phone.  It should be ‘easy’.  It shouldn’t require me to have a MCSE figure it out for me.  Overall, I’m not impressed, AGAIN with Microsoft Windows Phone product. 

ON a separate note, I think the HTC charger port is phony.  The charger cord doesn’t slide into the port easily, and it doesn’t charge completely overnight if not correctly plugged in. 

The next phone I purchase will either be a Lumia product OR i'll jump the Microsoft ship and switch to an iPhone.  If the Lumia has the same issues that I’ve had with the two previous Windows OS for phones; I’ll be an Apple customer and Microsoft will have lost this housewife to the evil Borg.


Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Just catching up


It’s been a while since I’ve posted.  It’s not that I’ve had nothing to say; but I’ve had so much to say it’s difficult to get it down in between everything else.  And frankly, some of it just shouldn’t be put out in the blogosphere for anyone to read.

I had to make my blog a bit more restricted as I kept getting spam from “anonymous” about medications and lots of other junk.  So if you’re one of my readers who wants to comment and previously commented as “anonymous”, please use your real information or set up a Gmail account so you can comment on the blog. 

I’m amazed constantly at the ‘traffic’ the blog gets.  I’m sure it’s people like me who troll sites looking for someone with something important to say; so I hope you find what you’re looking for.  If not, and you’re a regular reader, I appreciate that you stop by and hope you stay.

Grandchild #3 has a peanut allergy, so that means we’re going to have to watch our peanut butter intake here in the house while he’s here.  Yes, we have an epi-pen; yes, I know how to use it.  Grandchild #2 is doing well after his feeding tube surgery (“G-tube”).  He’s funny and active and pretty much a boy all the way through.  Grandchild #1 – and my only grand-daughter so far – has been warned that this last birthday where she turned 9 years old, would be her last.  I can’t have her growing up on me now, can I?

I participated in my first 5K on Memorial Day Monday.  I only ran a small bit – due to the last of a head cold – but I finished just over 46 minutes and 206th out of 260 participants.  Not bad for my first 5K and almost 50 years old.  I’ve signed up for another one in August and I hope to run more this time. 

Therapy is interesting; I’ve had it before and although I like talking to someone with an objective opinion, it’s also a bit strange because I can’t change anyone else; I’ve got to change how I deal with the situation.  And, even though I have a script – what I’m supposed to say or do – the other people DON’T have that script.  Since I can’t drag my therapist around with me all the time (that would be expensive and she’d probably need therapy); I have to punt.  And that never goes well.

One of the things I’ve discussed with my therapist is that my mother was never interested much in her grandchildren.  It’s always bothered me, but I try not to let it be a big deal.  Know what we figured out?  My mother – who was jealous of my husband and would have been jealous of any man I married – was JEALOUS of my kids.  JEALOUS of children!  Because they meant I no longer belonged solely to her.  Go figure.

I really, truly, honestly do not get Downton Abbey and the fandom thing.  Sorry, I’ve watched most of season three (because it just had to get better, right?) and I’m just not into it.  And, I’ve never watched Game of Thrones, Walking Dead or Arrested Development. 

I’ve started lots of posts but haven’t finished them.  Maybe I’ll post them and maybe I won’t.  Some of them just aren’t worth a read, but I had to get them out of my head.

It’s Day Camp season and I’m the registrar for our district.  I’m amazed how many people don’t complete health forms or complete them incorrectly.  I wonder if they are as careless in completing job applications or paperwork for school, or if they just really don’t realize how impossible it is to read their handwriting.  I could go on and on about incomplete forms, messy handwriting and what people name their children, but we’ll just leave that to your imagination.

I was at the grocery store the other day to pick up two items I forgot for dinner (potatoes and bread).  The total came to $6.68; I handed the cashier $7.00 (a 5-dollar bill and two 1’s).  She incorrectly entered in that I’d paid $6.00 so she asked for another 68 cents; I reminded her that I’d overpaid.  As she’d put in the wrong payment amount, she had no idea how much change to give me in return.  Her first excuse, was that she was tired as she’d worked all day.  I patiently told her to count back from $0.68 and guided her towards the pennies.  She then apologized because she’s “an art student – math isn’t my strong point” and couldn’t figure out whether to give me another 40 or 50 cents.  “Art Student” or not, she should know how to make change so she doesn’t get ripped off at the store for her art supplies.  Of course, she probably has a credit card and won’t need to worry about stupid things like cash.

That’s about all that’s going on right now.  Well, not really.  I have a 19 year old who works part time, and plays video games the rest of the time; a 14 year old who believes the only reason parents exist is to pay for his desires and a husband who doesn’t understand me after 24 years of marriage.  I don’t understand me either; so I guess he’s not alone.